By Russell Bluejack
Heading is the euphemism for oral sex. It is a product of creativity in lovemaking. From the point of view of the header and the headed, it is good as it is the fastest path to ecstasy. The headed derives passion from it, but whether the header finds it passionate is a different thing. It does appear PASSION is the ball that lovers head to each other. A goal is scored when MOANING follows the deed.
Biblically speaking, should oral sex (heading) be part of sex? Culturally and morally, should an activity outside the fusion of male and female genitals count as sex? I wish to point out that in a changing world like ours, what we see as moral and cultural evolve. If heading fails the inclusive test for sex, it certainly will scale that for FOREPLAY. Foreplay, I dare say, is the most distinguishing mark between bipodal Homo Erectus and Homo Intellectus. Note that monkeys, gorillas, baboons, and chimps are bipodal erectus, since they walk upright on two feet. We differ from them rationally and emotionally. Man enjoys heightened emotional and amorous activities.
Amorously, man does a lot of things, and please take note that lovemaking is more complex than mere fusion of genitals (cloacal kiss for aves). Lovemaking is more artistic, and that is where oral sex comes in. In a partner's bid to prove to the other that he means a lot, unimaginable things are done. Lovemaking unites souls; sex quenches taste and makes procreation possible. I submit that those who make love are truly higher animals, for it is had out of value, one for the other.
Heading is not bad, as long as it is seen as a means to an end. What do I mean? As long as headers do it as an activity preceding actual sex, it is okay. However, there are cases where heading is done to excite ejaculation. Oral sex had with the intention of making the man splooge (ejaculate) is an act that distorts the Natural Order. What has been divinely ordered to make us come is actual sex, not imagined (masturbation) or distorted (oral) sex. To this end, it is wrong, ipso facto, to indulge in anal sex and sodomy. Mouth the man's shaft and scrotal sac; mouth your woman's clit, if you so wish. As long as it gives your partner passion and is climaxed by actual fusion of genitals, it is OK. Ecstasy reached devoid of the natural contrivance is bad. Whatever tends to stand the Programme of the Maker (God) on the head is demonic and thereby proscribed.
God forbids any creativity that celebrates the Devil. Let us think now that we can lest our feelings coast our ship to the land of the abominable. Dear partner, relationship is not a place where you think with your head, but rather a place you feel with your heart. It is okay to please your spouse by doing what you normally wouldn't do, as long as it is not against God. Until love makes you do the abnormal (not abominable), you are not in love. If she wants to be headed, please by all means get her headed. If he wants his shaft mouthed prior to the actual thing, woman, go ahead. Note, however, that if the oral sex draws the curtains on the activity, then there is a serious problem. Any man or woman who derives pleasure from oral sex devoid of actual sex is psychologically sick. I recommend such person for serious counseling.
Russell Bluejack is a thinker, writer, socio-economic and political analyst, and university tutor that writes from Port Harcourt.